Shane Whalley (ze/hir)

The Tip

For me, recovery is the most important thing. I think being a good ally, is the willingness to be uncomfortable. If you make a mistake, I'm a big believer that I would love for someone- I've been trying to start a hashtag. Yeah, 60 year old people can start hashtags. That's right. #AcknowledgeandApologize and then ask if there's anything needed for repair and then do better. Right. And so for me, we're always going to make mistakes. We're always going to make mistakes. But, what we do once we do them is again, for me, is where our greatest learning happens and it's where our greatest healing happens.

Shane, episode one

Breaking Down Shane's Tip

Embrace Discomfort for Growth

Recovery is crucial; practicing allyship means embracing discomfort. If you make a mistake, use #AcknowledgeandApologize, ask for repair, and do better.

1. Prioritize Recovery: Shane emphasizes the importance of recovery, suggesting that acknowledging and addressing mistakes is a vital aspect of allyship.

2. Embrace Discomfort: Allyship involves a willingness to step outside one's comfort zone. It's a recognition that growth and learning often come from discomfort.

3. #AcknowledgeandApologize: Shane introduces the hashtag as a tool for taking responsibility.

4. Ask for Repair: After apologizing, inquire if there's anything needed for repair. This step shows a commitment to making amends and understanding the impact of actions. Repair may not always be possible.

5. Continuous Improvement: Recognize that mistakes are inevitable. The key is to learn from them. Shane stresses that the process of addressing mistakes is where significant learning and healing occur.

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